Saturday, March 13, 2021

Day 62: Stopping the Negative Self Talk in Your Head... Yeah, Totally Possible...

 

Short and sweet today... It is Saturday and this old man needs to not get some things done but I wouldn't dream of not posting, after all, it is part of the goal, right? Not going to lie, this morning I wanted to quit... With two months down, everyone I know watching me to see if I can finish this monstrous task I have taken on, and I wanted to tap out... My alarm went off at 0455 and my first sensation was pain… My back hurt, shoulders ached and I had that feeling of being so tired you just kinda want to, sorta, yearn for the world to just ignore your existence for a few more hours… I slept for 8 more minutes and Lady Gaga again reminded me that she had a Million Reasons for me to get up… There were no games this morning, I didn’t count down, didn’t reason with myself, didn’t anything… I kicked my pillows out of bed, sat up and steeled myself for the blinding light of the bedside table lamp…  Stepping out of bed my ankle felt like it had two stainless steel pins in it (it does), my back screaming to remind me that there was no way in hell that I was going to do anything this morning…

Then the flood of bargaining started… I could surely blog this morning instead of doing that hated ½ Murph… I reminded myself that I actually like the ½ Murph… Well, my mind continued, it’s only 49 degrees outside so you can put off outside yoga until later, Right? Nope, by the time I finish this ½ Murph and my squat challenge it will have warmed up enough and I can wear a hoody, I said… But, my back hurts and I’m limping, I whine… I will stretch out good before I start, I said…  I’m tired… This will wake me up I reminded myself again… I groaned, but it’s Saturday, I have been doing this for two months and I can certainly write this morning, work on guitar practice and do all this shit later when I am feeling better… Right? I continued brushing my teeth, not paying much attention to the voices in my head… Suddenly, my mind burst out, YOU HAVE A PODCAST AT 9:30 AND THERE IS NO TIME TO GET ALL THIS DONE, YOU WILL HAVE TO POSTPONE EXERCISE! it triumphantly shouted… I poked my watch and it said 0528 and I laughed reminding myself that I could certainly do one ½ Murph, 145 squats and a ½ hour of Yoga in 4 hours… My mind went silent, brooding… I hesitated to see if it had something useful and it pouted at me as I fired up my television so I could run my timers and music…

I laid down on the floor to stretch out my back… I was stiffer than a wedding boner and immediately, it started… “See, you’re never going to get this loose enough to do a ½ Murph, maybe you can get it good enough to sit and blog and this will be better this afternoon…” I continued stretching and slowly it began to free up again and within a few minutes, it felt alright but the entire time I was stretching out, my mind was in free fall, saying everything it could to stop me… I stood up to start the timer for my 1/2 Murph and desperately, my mind whimpered, “at least go pee first…” I could feel myself trying frantically to find some way, any way, to delay starting that ½ Murph series…

I walked back in the bedroom, put my hand on the mouse and started the timer… As soon as I started the timer, My mind said, “well, you will never beat thirty minutes...”

Let me hesitate right here… I have been doing a ½ Murph for a about a year and the three goals I have for doing a ½ Murph are one, finish, two, finish in under thirty minutes and three, try to beat my fastest time if at all possible… Now I always finish and I have never exceeded thirty minutes… Occasionally, I beat my best time but that isn’t always possible… So when my mind said, you’ll never finish in thirty minutes, I knew it was grabbing at straws and would shut the fuck up soon… Or, at least until the ½ Murph was over…

I finished in less than 25 minutes and my mind congratulated itself like it never said I wouldn’t make it… Then it said, you know, those squats could be done this afternoon… I said five sets of 30 would go quickly… It said how about a couple sets now and finish up this afternoon? No, I said… I started squatting and it was silent for a while considering if I could indeed, do five sets… It rambled on like an angry drunk for three sets and then resigned itself to silence as I finished the fifth set…

Well, it’s much too cold to go do outside yoga as sweaty as you are… I sighed… I will put on my hoody and you know as well as I do, yoga will keep me warm… My mind rebelled, and said, you will catch a cold! I said, listen, that’s a stupid hillbilly myth, shut up… I went to the garage, opened the door and as soon as I felt the cool breeze on my skin and heard the birds on a quiet Saturday morning, I felt accomplished, successful and powerful beyond measure…

Does this sound delusional or is it an almost exact copy of the conversations you have with yourself that you lose almost every day of your life? Do you plan on exercising in the morning that turns into exercising in the evening that turns into exercising tomorrow that turns into doing absolutely nothing?  Exercising in the morning sounds great when you consider it the evening before… The next morning the thing that sounded like you were going to conquer the world, now sounds like you would rather not conquer anything except for your snooze button… Last night you were Alexander the Great of morning exercise, and the next morning you are the Genghis Khan of the snooze realm…

Why? Because you let your mind talk you out of it…

Yeah, I get it… But why are some people healthy, fit and kicking life’s ass and you are walking among the dead? That would have a rather simple retort… You’re weak…

Ouch…

I wish we candy coat that a little and I guess I could if I wanted to mute the blow, but I really don’t… I wandered among the walking dead for decades wanting, needing, pleading with myself, to please stop being so fucking lazy… Start, stop, start, stop… Plan, break the plan, plan again, and break it again… Give up, hate myself, start again, stop… It was a vicious cycle that I couldn’t break out of… I certainly didn’t want to be what I was and I was horrified with myself… Truthfully, I had so many problems that I could have solved if I would have just ignored the voices in my head telling me that it was too hard…

Listen, truthfully being in shape sucks sometimes… Eating a healthy diet sucks… There are times when I want to stop this nonsense of running on the hamster wheel of self improvement… I want to watch television, and drink beer while I’m waiting on my pizza to arrive… I want to sleep in, wake up, get stoned and lounge about the house in my underwear scratching my ass and looking into the refrigerator every 15 minutes not knowing if I am hungry or bored out of my mind…

I can’t...

That sounds good and then I remember how much I hated myself when I lived like that… No self esteem, no confidence, no joy… Always sick to my stomach, always tired, groggy, brain fog…. Why would I sacrifice what I have now for that? This is two hours a day and then practicing self control… I still hear the same arguments that you hear, except now, they aren’t valid anymore… They’re like a far off drum beat that I can tune out… The other life is a 24/7 fight that I lost every day, slowly eating away at my self esteem, confidence and self worth…

Pizza ain’t worth that…

Sorry to be so harsh but today a guy in the mall ask me what I was doing, because he said that I had an aura of health around me that he could feel… We discussed the struggle to stay healthy and he said he was fighting every day to keep motivated, so I thought about it all day and I wanted tell you CJ, the only thing I could come up with is that I stopped listening to the negative fucker that lives in my head. The voice that says I can’t, because I can… The voice that says I shouldn’t, because I should and especially  the one voice that claims conclusively that I will fail, because listen dude, I won’t fail… I fucking refuse to go back to that misery I used to call my life. That life that I settled for, accepted and hated…

I absolutely love the challenge life… Like my morning motivational speech says, “Give me 10,000 men and I defeat them with my heart alone…” So if that is true, what’s one voice in my head going to convince me of again? Not a damned thing…

Get. To. Work.

The 90 Day Life Change Challenge update.. Just did it… Day started trying to choke me out and I fought back, fought back viciously and knocked it out… You can too you know, it’s just a lazy voice in your head stopping you…

Well… Sorry, lied to you… That was going to be short and sweet and it turned into long and quite punishing… *shrugs* Sorry, not sorry…

Love you like Angelina Jolie loves weird sex… Have an intentional rest of your day!

See you tomorrow when we are going to talk about a very valid reason for getting up earlier…

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